Is peace safe?

When you are used to the rushing, hyperactivity and stress, now getting used to peace.

Phew.

Hello :)

May I ask you to join me in a deep breath?

Good , then let’s do one. (Or more)

Slowly inhale… and exhale…

Good.

Hey:) today I desire to speak on how there might be a need to get used to peace and calm after living in high stress.

I know what it’s like to so often be stressed, be in a rush, be in this and that, here and there, but actually feeling the missing link — you. Where you miss you being here. And this state can idly enough become a comfort zone, a safe spot., so to speak, where it has been on for so long that peace and calmness feels unfamiliar and unsafe.

Are you connecting with this ? I know I am .

I want to say that it’s okay for it to feel like that. That it’s something new we are implementing and learning and taking our time with, so I want to say that it’s normal for it to feel that way. We got this and we are on our way !

Me and stress

In this section I want to look at how it feels for me , how it has been happening and I want to enter this space with you.

Now that I am building my awareness, I am pretty aware when this state starts / is happening and I am feeling into what would be best in the moment.

But how does it feel ? Ugh… it just doesn’t. Everything feels like as if it' s running fast, but it also feels uncomfortably familiar. I see the nature around me going slow, i feel the pace of it, the sky, but in me everything feels familiarly fast.

It feels like there is really something missing. Like the missing link is me , here and now, living and loving. I also understood that the exhaustion I feel is often caused exactly by not being present and here in myself, which was a quiet , but a good realization.

When this state of stress comes up it feels like I want to rush everything, like I am not physically here, or that I want to or should chase something to put me back into peace.

Recently I have had a lot of these moments , sometimes even days. And I know how hard it can be to actually put my mind to it and do something to get out of the loop. I have found my tools and I am continuously finding new ones, which help me to come back in, to be here and to see more clearly.

With situations of this kind there are things I do that help me get into my body more, become more aware and feel the weight lifting off.

What tools I use , what helps me

In these moments what helps me will be written further in here, but I am thrilled you are here and we get to speak on this important topic.

So, what is it then?

Firstly — breath. Allowing a slower pace just to take a glimpse at me, to peak out and see. I start with a little.

• Dance, movement to music that I love. Music that lifts my mood.

• Dressing how I usually would like to dress.

• Slow, deep breathing.

• Coming into awareness of the space I am in, the time I am in , the moment of the day I am in. I find myself getting lost in thought, lost in that space, so creating awareness of the time and place I am in made a difference.

• What caused the stress? The overwhelming feelings ? Asking this question to get clear on the answer.

• Self hug and calming self talk. As I spoke in my earlier post about overthinking, self hug is a beautiful thing and calming self talk, although might have to be learned, can create a better place to be.

• Creating moments of peace and slowness so I know how it feels like.

• And finally , becoming aware of my senses. Turning them on. This is a practice I learned from Amanda Hanson, Midlife Muse. Turning on my 5 senses. What do I feel, what can I hear, what can I smell, taste , touch? This practice helps me a lot when I’m feeling out of the body. It brings me a bit and a bit more here. I use this very often.

So these are just some of them , some of the things I do and if we spoke more I think I could recall more :)

But for now this is it :))

Next part? A question.

So is peace actually safe?

Weird question, isn’t it? Yeah I know. But after feeling used to stress this question is an actual thing.

My answer is — Yes!

It is and I know that it also might take time to get used to it, to feel comfortable in it. For some time for me there was just a belief that it can get better. I went on with the hope I held deep within.

But what I also know is I love the moments it happens :) I know how it feels and I desire to create more space for it.

If you are facing something similar , hi :)

I am glad you read my post and I hope to see you again soon.

Have a blessed day , wherever you are !

Ella Renāte